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Failing to Even Fail

Failing to Even Fail

The title of this post might suggest someone who is perfect and successful and who has never made a mistake in their life. First of all: that person does not exist. Secondly, that’s not what this post is about. It’s about being so afraid to […]

The Post Grad’s Guide to New York City

The Post Grad’s Guide to New York City

A couple of weeks ago Chris and I spent the weekend in New York City and it was ah-mazing! Despite growing up in New England, I’d only been twice before and had never stayed overnight in the city. We planned the trip last year because […]

The Best of [June]

The Best of [June]

Is it seriously almost the Fourth of July? Summer always takes forever to get here and then when it finally arrives it feels like it’s almost over. Needless to say, June has flown by. It’s been a busy month for me between camping adventures and trips to NYC. Anyways, here’s what I’ve been loving this past month.

What I’ve been {watching}

Jane the Virgin This show is everything! The third season is finally on Netflix and I’ve been bingeing hard. I feel like a lot of people don’t watch this show, which is really their loss. It’s structured like a telenovella so it’s super dramatic and over the top, but it’s really funny, inspiring, and also incredibly heartbreaking (you’ve been warned). Also, Jane is amazing. Like, a perfect human being who I’d love to best friends with.

What I’ve been {reading}

Sweetbitter ICYMI, I read Sweetbitter this month. Check out my full review here. It’s about a 22-year-old named Tess who moves to New York to have a fresh start and the world she finds isn’t exactly what she expected. In some ways it’s better, in other ways it’s terrifying. I definitely recommend this to fellow post grads.

Learning to Fail This was the main story is the Style section of this past Sunday’s New York Times, which I read on my train ride home from the city, NBD. It’s about the insane pressure college students put on themselves to be perfect and successful and it’s insanely relatable. I plan on writing a full post about it in a week or two so I won’t go into too much detail here. Stay tuned.

Roxane Gay profile ELLE magazine has an amazing profile of feminist writer Roxane Gay in its June issue. Seriously, this should have been their cover story. In case you don’t know who Gay is, she’s the author of Bad Feminist and the recently released memoir, Hunger. She’s incredibly outspoken and unapologetic and doesn’t hold back when it comes to sharing her opinions or defending herself. The profile, written by Marisa Meltzer, focuses on Gay’s experience as an overweight black woman who uses her writing to change people’s perspectives about different life experiences. If you’ve never heard of Gay before, or if you’re a big fan, I suggest reading this piece.

What I’ve been {listening to}

Melodrama If you haven’t listened to Lorde’s new album yet what are you even doing with your life?? She is seriously a genius and her second album (and her first album and everything she does) is proof of that. I have been listening to it nonstop since it released two weeks ago. It might not be quite as good as Pure Heroine, but it’s this close. Fave tracks: Writer in the Dark, Hard Feelings/Loveless, Sober II (Melodrama), The Louvre, ok really I could just list every song.

Post Grad Reads

Why I Insta Stalk My Career Crushes via Vogue

When You Hate the Job You’re Supposed to Love via Catapult

Template Toolbox: 2 Email Templates for Networking via Idealist Careers

How To Answer The Dreaded “Tell Us About Yourself” Question in a Job Interview via HelloGiggles

 

>>> Photo by Colleen Kelty

{Book review} Sweetbitter by Stephanie Danler

{Book review} Sweetbitter by Stephanie Danler

When I first decided I wanted to write book reviews on Post Grad Purpose, I figured I’d be writing about career advice books (see: The Big Life). Then I read Sweetbitter and before I was even halfway through I knew I’d be blogging about it. […]

What To Do When You’re Feeling Overwhelmed

What To Do When You’re Feeling Overwhelmed

Wow, this is my first post in June and the month is more than halfway over. Oops. As you can tell from the title of this post, I’ve been super overwhelmed and have pretty much neglected Post Grad Purpose. I was even considering quitting, but […]

The Best of [May]

The Best of [May]

Well, May is just about over, which means summer is almost here. I’m always surprised at how fast May goes by, but maybe that’s because it’s my birthday month (thoughts on turning 25 → here). The month has been really busy, so I don’t have as much to share in regards to what I’ve been watching and listening to. My reading, however, didn’t take a hit.

What I’ve Been {Watching}

  • Master of None season 2 Aziz Ansari’s amazing show is finally back! I feel like this show is super underrated for some reason and I only know a handful of people who watch it. Everyone is seriously missing out because this show, which is a Netflix original BTW, is everything. It’s hilarious, thought-provoking, relatable, and artistic, and covers a wide range of social issues. I still have a couple of episodes of the new season left, though, so no spoilers please.

What I’ve Been {Reading}

  • Tiny Beautiful Things Cheryl Strayed is a genius. If she started a cult, I would join it. I read her memoir Wild about two years ago and loved it and this month I finally read Tiny Beautiful Things. It pulls from her advice column Dear Sugar, which she wrote anonymously, and covers every topic imaginable. The advice is so raw and honest and I underlined at least half of the lines. This is a book I’ll be keeping by my bedside.
  • 11 Years Old, a Mom, and Pushed to Marry Her Rapist in Florida I’ll admit, I was drawn to this New York Times op-ed by the click-bait headline. The issue of child marriage, though, is serious and completely overlooked in our country. As the writer points out, this isn’t a problem just affecting girls in third world countries. Girls as young as 11, 12, and 13 are being married to men 2-3 times their age everyday in the U.S. Read this and then please, please do some research into how this can be fixed.
  • The Book of Unknown Americans I was seeing this book everywhere on Instagram and its beautiful cover drew me in. Luckily, the words inside were just as good. It’s a story about a teenage boy who falls in love with a girl with a brain injury, while also weaving in their families’ stories (and other people’s stories) of immigrating to the U.S. from Latin American countries.
  • Glaciers I found this little book at Brattle Book Shop on a Memorial Day weekend trip to Boston and read it in two days. I don’t think I’ve ever read a book like it – it leaves a lot unsaid. It follows one day in the life of Isabel, a twenty-something woman from Alaska, as she reflects back on her childhood and how she’s spent her life obsessed with the past. Very good, unique read. (Sidenote: In a college, I did a photo essay about this book store and this is the first time I’ve been back since. It was just as awe-inspiring as I remembered it.)

What I’ve Been {Listening To}

  • Bad Liar Selena Gomez is killing it and I’m loving it. As I mentioned last month, I’m a huge fan of hers and have been since I was like, 16. When I first heard this song, I was sort of slow to like it. It’s very different. Now though – this song is on repeat and probably will be all summer.

Post Grad Reads

What Returning For Graduation At My Alma Mater Taught Me About Post Grad Life

What Returning For Graduation At My Alma Mater Taught Me About Post Grad Life

Feeling way older than you actually are If you’ve ever been back to your college campus as a post grad, there are probably a few different things you felt – nostalgic, excited, hesitant, and above all, old. Yep, even at only a year or two out, you […]

Thoughts on 25

Thoughts on 25

Yesterday I turned 25 years old. People always ask on your birthday if you feel older and the answer is always no, but I have been feeling older lately. Not because of my birthday specifically, but throughout the past few weeks. Older might not be […]


Post Grad Life Isn't All Bad, Right?

{Best & Worst} of Post Grad Life

{Best & Worst} of Post Grad Life

Like all things, post grad life has pros and cons. When it’s good, everything’s fine. You paid your rent on time, your boss praised you in front of your coworkers, and you nailed your meal prep Sunday night. You’ve got this adulting thing figured out.

When it’s bad, though, it’s bad. You stayed up all night stressing about whether you chose the right career path, you got a parking ticket, and your mom finally turned your old bedroom into a dog room (I’m not kidding). You feel lost, unimportant, and more stressed than ever.

I’ve found that the good and bad of post grad life ebb and flow. The challenges lead to new realizations and the hardships have surprising resolutions. Here’s the best and worst of post grad life:

Best

  • Independence. Sorry to those still living with the rents, but for the rest of us, post grad life means FREEDOM. You make the rules, not mom and dad or your college hall director.
  • No more studying. Speaking of freedom… Your time is now yours. Yeah, you need to punch in for that 9 to 5, but nights and weekends are yours. So sleep a little more, plan a weekend get-away, or start working on that side hustle.
  • Money, money, money. With that 9 to 5 comes the oh-so-glorious paycheck. In college you got paid minimum wage to work at the campus bookstore. Now with every direct deposit you’re seeing the payoff (literally) of the degree you worked so hard to get.
  • Hello friends. New city and new job means new friends. It’s hard at first, but trust me, you will meet new people. Go to events, ask the girl one cubicle down to grab coffee, or hit up a college acquaintance you know lives nearby.
  • Company happy hours. If you work at the right place, this is a thing. And if you work at a good place, they’ll pick up the tab.
  • You, meet you. This may be super cheesy, but probably the best part of post grad life is that you will learn a TON about yourself. Your interests and ways of thinking will expand, you’ll overcome some tough times, and you’ll grow and develop as a person.

Worst

  • Ugh, bills. Ok, so I know I said you’ll finally be making some money, but guess where it’s going? Even thinking about seeing the electric company’s logo on the top left corner of that envelope every month makes me cringe.
  • Student loans. Like bills, but worse. When that grace period ends, be warned – the student loan bills come at you fast.
  • Cooking for one. Is there a sadder phrase in the English language? From cooking too much and then eating alone, it’s not too much fun. Luckily, it gets easier as you go.
  • Loss of community. One of the hardest things to adjust to post-college is the loss of community. College is a little bubble filled with things to do and people to hang out with. The second you get that diploma, your safety net falls away.
  • What to do, what to do? The stress of trying to figure out what to do with your life is literally the worst. I can’t even tell you how many hours I’ve spent having mental breakdowns over this.

That may have ended on a bit of a depressing note, but one of the reasons I started Post Grad Purpose is to talk about all this. I plan to cover pretty much every above bullet in a future post, even the not-so-fun stuff. Like, for real, does anyone like cooking for one??

Anything I missed? Let me know in the comments ↓